We live in a semi-urban neighborhood. As in: we live in the upstairs
apartment of a two-family, semi-attached house, with a shared driveway
and no real backyard to speak of, on a quiet block in a small city. I
spent my childhood smack in the middle of Manhattan and my teenage years
in a lovely house with a gorgeous garden in a sleepy little suburban
village, so this life I have now is... I'm never quite sure what it is.
Very in-between.
It is easy to get lazy and turn the in-between-ness into a negative,
especially regarding our lack of outdoor space. It stinks to have to get
in the car and drive in order to be out in any kind of wilderness,
especially since I believe that fostering a relationship with the
natural world is one of the most important things you can do for your
children. (I realize, though, how lucky we are to have a car to do that
driving, and to have preserved woodlands in our general area to go to.) I
try very hard to move beyond such laziness and to work within the
limits of this situation, to choose the life I have instead of always
wishing for bigger and better. One way I try to do this is to appreciate
the threads of nature that are here, weaving around us. Our
little dead end street runs parallel to a busy highway, but in between
us and the cars are a thick band of huge, beautiful trees standing
sentinel against the noise and energy of the big road. Our little square
of grass in front of our house, the window box of herbs outside our kitchen
window, the occasional hawk we spot circling overhead and the squirrels
we see on our walk to the school bus each morning - all these give us
the chance to notice and receive nature's gifts.
I've been really inspired by all the farming that is going on in New
York City lately. Beekeeping was just legalized
in the city, and more restaurants are starting to get produce from
local (rooftop) gardens like this
one. Clearly you do not need multiple acres of arable land to be connected to the source of your food. Since we moved to our home 3 1/2 years ago we have tried to
keep a vegetable garden in our little back plot behind our
driveway. Mostly, though, that "we" has been Chris, since I've been
pregnant with or nursing a small one through every spring and summer
here. This year, with Maeve a more self-sufficient preschooler, things
feel so much more doable and I've been getting out there with Chris and
working our itty-bitty land. And instead of berating the space for not being better, and then giving up, I've been enjoying it and feeling proud of us for making the most of what we have.
{Tomato plant}
{Pepper plant. After three summers we have decided to admit that we are always going to be terrible at staying on top of the weeding, so this year we got this black weed barrier fabric for the veggie beds. So far it's working.}
{Grape vine growing up the back fence}
We have four raised beds separated by little paver stone pathways (otherwise the kids cannot help but trample all over everything). One end of the garden directly boarders an identical plot owned by the neighbors we share the driveway with. The other end, in the corner, is home to the giant meat smoker Chris built a couple years back. We can smoke vast quantities of meat in that thing. Last weekend Chris and his buddies did a whole pig.
{Looking down the garden towards the smoker (on the left) and the covered shelves where Chris stores wood for the smoker}
The new addition that we're excited about is our compost bin. We've been wanting one for so long, and this year we finally made the investment.
It came with a little kitchen bin (with an odor-reducing filter, thankfully), and Stella and Maeve are really into figuring out which food scraps can go into it. Rather, I should say that Stella is into figuring that out, Maeve is more just interested in dumping the scraps in! The girls being curious about this new addition to our home life has been such a nice surprise, though I really should have expected it. To a five year-old, this is not a conversation about garbage, but about how the world works - a bulletin from grown-up land about food and science, about making choices and seeing the consequences, about the values of our family... all important stuff to a little information-gathering kindergartner. And to a two year-old, learning that certain things go in certain places in our house, and understanding family routines and feeling a part of them, can be very comforting and empowering.
I always feel a little funny writing about home in this way on True North. Obviously gardening can be an incredibly artistic pursuit, but it's not like I'm designing gorgeous flower beds here, I'm talking about weed barriers and composting. But the lesson I am learning, both slowly and over and over again, is that creativity and day-to-day life are not separate. I can't access my creative energy when I'm feeling judgmental about my own life, and I'll never be living the life I want unless I am regularly doing something creative. I was reading a New Yorker from a few weeks ago (I'm always behind) in which they had published some of Saul Bellow's letters - fascinating in general, but my favorite was one letter where he was giving advice to a younger writer just starting out: "To be a writer one learns to live like one.. The craft one learns oneself. The main business is to find the most appropriate and most stimulating equilibrium."
To me, living like an artist looks like seeing the abundant beauty all around me all the time - in everyday things, in ugly things, in nature, in people. The craft (whether sewing, drawing, mural painting, knitting, writing) I am learning as I go along, and feeling nurtured by that pursuit. But the main business is to find the most appropriate and most stimulating equilibrium between my creative projects and my roles as a mother and wife and daughter and sister, a member of my various communities, a friend, a part of the larger world. So, composting. So, parenting philosophy. So, balance amongst it all.